Okay, people, here’s the deal - MarzGurl has been having a really crappy few months. I notice it because I follow her twitter feed and, well, because she’s my friend and I care about her.
In addition to repeated car troubles that have forced her to auction off several of her personal items, she…
Nerds and Male Privilege (definitely worth a read!)
I want to tell you a story.
A few years ago, I was dating a girl who was decidedly not nerd curious. She tolerated my geeky interests with a certain bemused air but definitely didn’t participate in ‘em… not even setting foot inside a comic store on new comic day. She’d wait outside until I was done… which could be a while, since I was friends with several of the staff.
She came in the store exactly once, after I’d explained that no, it’s a pretty friendly place… well lit, spacious, organized and with helpful – and clearly identified – staff members who were willing to bend over backwards to make sure their customers were satisfied.
She was in there for less than 4 minutes before one mouth-breathing troglodyte began alternately staring at her boobs – evidently hoping that x-ray vision could develop spontaneously – and berating her for daring to comment on the skimpy nature of the costumes – in this case, Lady Death and Witchblade. She fled the premises, never to return.
When both the manager and I explained to him in no uncertain terms as to what he did wrong he shrugged his shoulders. “Hey, I was just trying to help you guys! She couldn’t understand that chicks can be tough and sexy! Not my fault she’s a chauvinist,” he said.
And that was when I shot him, your honor.
So with that example in mind, let’s talk about a subject I’ve touched on before: Male Privilege and how it applies to geeks and – more importantly – geek girls.
MALE PRIVILEGE: WHAT IS IT, EXACTLY?
And this is why I don’t particularly care of John Green either.
THROUGH THE SCREEN!
NO, I’M TELLING YOU TO STOP HOGGING THE HOT WATER, A-HOLE. WHAT? YOU THINK I DON’T NEED A SHOWER? DO YOU THINK GIRLS JUST SMELL NICE ON PRINCIPLE? ALSO, STOP HIDING IN THE BATHROOM, I ALREADY KNOW YOU CAN’T DO HOUSEWORK FOR SHIT SO I WON’T FORCE YOU TO DO A TOKEN EFFORT!
What? No! Not the puppy eyes! NOT THE PUPPY EYES!
Oh, screw it, yes, I’m jumping in.
Some little girls have all the best friends.
Some little girls get the coolest new toys.
Some little girls are insanely talented and accomplished, and everyone agrees they are amazing.
Some little girls are average.
Their toys are not as nice.
They’re not as assertive.
Their friends tend to leave them alone.
Some little girls think something’s wrong with them.
They think they need fixing.
They think it’s their hair, their clothes, their attitude.
They think they’re not good enough to love.
Some little girls are told they have no right to sadness.
They hear: “You have your father, you have your mother,
“And both of them love you,
“What more can you want?
“Don’t you know there are starving children in Africa?”
Some little girls learn to keep things down.
They swallow the sadness, and buck up, and go,
It’s their problem, not yours, after all,
They should have spoken up.